June 19, 2013

Claiming Home: From Lemuria and Atlantis to Life on Earth

June 6, 2013 By 2 Comments

Duwamish Head to the Olympic PeninsulaDo you long for home? Do you feel like you don’t belong here? Well, you’re wrong, and here’s why.

We chose to come here, we chose to stay, and it’s time to stop longing for home and to claim the home we came here to create. Earth. It’s here. Really, it’s here.

How do I know? Because I’ve discussed it with my crystal partner, Fallon, the Citrine Lemurian Quartz. How we got separated eons ago. Yes, eons ago. What happened, and what is going on now.

I remember some of that ancient time, and I’ve pieced the story together from conversations with Fallon and other beings, including star beings and crystals, and highly attuned human intuitives.

Here’s what I know from my discussions with them over the last 12 years.

In the Beginning

A long, long time ago representatives from star systems across the universe and from multiple dimensions came together to create a new place of love and connection with all life.

I don’t know what they called it then, but today we call it Earth.

True to our vision this new planet was a planet of equals: human, animal, star being—from beautiful bird shapes to whale shapes—from inter-dimensional beings like dragons and the Quinnich Nation (beings we today call Sasquatch), from crystals to plants to weather and land systems to the conscious, evolving planet itself—we came together to experience life as a collective.

We came here to experience life as equals on a planet where everything is alive, has a soul, consciousness, responsibility, free choice, and an attitude.

We came to form partnerships with all life.

To embody love, connection, and equality.

It worked for a very long time. Eons ago I took Fallon out of the ground at his direction, and we worked together for lifetimes. We worked with people, with other star systems, and with the planet itself—with land and weather systems.

Other crystals came forth. The crystal skulls were ancient computers. Other larger crystal groups were ancient machines that were operated by intuitives: I have worked with one of these machines, an ancient medical device (that story is coming).

Life was good.

And then the asteroids came.

Asteroids, Choices, and … Consequences

When we knew we couldn’t stop the asteroids, we made plans. Those who came from different star systems chose to either go back to them while they could or to stay, knowing that they might have to take different forms to survive. (For some reason I don’t quite understand, the ‘alien’ appearance many of us had was more susceptible to damage than other forms that have evolved to current body types we recognize as human, animal, and plants, among other forms.)

We had no idea what life after the asteroids would look like, but we made a choice.

Now, all choices have consequences, and this one was huge.

We decided that the world we had created could not survive so we closed it down.

We said goodbye to home.

We did the best we could, but it was a choice made from fear.

And that made everything worse.

When we recognized our mistake we made another one: we punished ourselves by ending our partnerships until and if we could someday remember the power of love to forgive, to heal, and to grow.

Those of us with crystal partners buried them in the safest places we knew. This may be where the legend of Lemurian crystals came from. All I know is that Fallon and I said goodbye to each other.

When we talked about this back in 2009, when we were at last reunited,  we were both sober and heartbroken, because it has taken us eons to be reunited.

Eons that were often grim.

With repeated asteroid collisions, the civilizations that we today call Atlantis and Lemuria could not survive on the surface. They sank below the sea, hoping for protection, and eventually slipped between dimensions, where they are today.

Life became surviving in what we now call a 3D world.

That is how we came to live fear.

That is how we forgot our purpose.

And that is why so many of us today long for home.

How Fear Became the Idea of Planetary Healing

Yes, fear is natural in tough times. The problem is that fear became embedded in our DNA: it’s like PTSD in our genetic makeup.

Fear divided us. We forgot the world we came here to create. And still we longed for home.

Those things—fear, forgetting, and longing for home—came with us in multiple incarnations.

So did the concept of Planetary Healing. The mindset that humans are caretakers and guardians. That we are in control, that life is subservient to us, that we are alone in the universe.

Yes, we need to heal, we need healers, and there are many great healers among us today. But the forms of ‘healing’ that force change on us and on the planet are done.

These forms of ‘healing’ belong to the mindset of Planetary Healing. It assumes:

  • We exist in a negative state that needs to be fixed.
  • Our bodies and our souls are ‘broken.’
  • Animals are pets and commodities who are beneath us, or healers and teachers who are responsible for our welfare.
  • Our homes and businesses are not alive.
  • We should force hurricanes away from land and knit fault lines to prevent earthquakes.
  • Tther beings are either below us or above us, as in spiritual guides, angels, and ascended masters, but not equal.

Planetary Healing is a popular idea, but it is 3D reality, which is passing as the new 4D and 5D realities emerge. These are the realities of time and dimensions, and they mean that time has become more fluid and it is becoming possible (in fact, inevitable) that we can move between different dimensions or earth realities.

With them comes the mindset of Planetary Connection that Fallon and I came to teach—the equality of all life.

The New Mindset: Planetary Connection

In the mindset of Planetary Connection we remember our partnership with all life.

We remember love.

And we claim a new world where:

  • We live the idea of equality with all life, whatever its form.
  • We gather in communities to learn and grow.
  • Loneliness is not an option, because we are together.
  • Healing takes a new form.

There is a new energy, a new vibration we call alchemical energy. It is the ancient DNA of the universe that has changed for our time.

The vibration of connection and choice, this multi-dimensional vibration means that healing is no longer about fixing things or solving problems. Instead, healing is about:

  • learning to hold vibrational energy across dimensions (a complex notion that is simpler in execution)
  • and allowing and supporting choice

What does this mean?

I will discuss this in upcoming articles, but essentially it means that we can cross time and dimensional borders to meet ourselves and to facilitate understanding between all life. It also means that we acknowledge that all life has a choice—even life forms we struggle with, like cancer. This is a lesson I’ve learned from my own personal experience facing the possibility of cancer, and from the death of my beloved soul mate, my Cavalier King Charles Spaniel girl, Murphy, who died of hemangiosarcoma on March 8, 2012.

Claiming the mindset of Planetary Connection means that the old world we came here to create eons ago, the world we locked away because of fear during the asteroid collisions, can come back.

It means that as the 4D and 5D realities cross time and dimensional borders, we can choose the world we want to live in. (Those of us who have actually crossed into alternate dimensions like I have will know exactly what I am talking about: alternate earths exist, and we may someday choose to live in one—weirdly sci-fi, I know, but true.)

We are seeing this right now.

  • Ancient partners are being re-united, as Fallon and I have been.
  • It is easier to speak with the dead and with spirit guides.
  • Animals are family members, which means they are equals.
  • Our homes, businesses—everything around us—are alive.
  • We support the choices made by the land itself, including hurricanes and earthquakes.
  • Dragons have come back into the world.
  • Other beings are making themselves known, like the Quinnich Nation, who travel via portals, and honest to goodness real aliens (and not with death rays).
  • We can move between dimensions—literally between different earth realities.

Why This New World Is Coming Now

Okay, amazing things are happening. The real question isn’t that they are happening, but why? What’s different?

I’m told that an 8th chakra is opening. I’m told it is located between the heart and throat chakras and that it is called the chakra of unconditional love. Wow!

As your 8th chakra opens, you will experience time and dimensional shifting. Guaranteed. Or, perhaps, inevitable. I speak from personal experience.

It takes a lot of work to get to that point. I had no idea that the hard work of getting and staying balanced, of learning what love really means, would mean an unknown 8th chakra would open inside me. (Life is full of surprises! Occasionally they are good ones, like this is.)

So what do you do to open your 8th chakra? For now:

  • Ground into your chakras.
  • Ground into all the elements, not just the earth, but into all the elements and into yourself.
  • Gather in communities to nourish and support yourself and others.
  • Understand that we hold the energies of other places: other star systems and other dimensions.
  • Know that our bodies and souls are equal: embrace the experience of being alive.
  • Remember that we came here to be equals with all life.
  • Grieve for what we lost: allowing grief allows love.
  • Celebrate what we have gained.
  • Practice, practice, practice living these truths.

Above all:

Release fear and claim love.

Release forgetting and remember.

And release the age-old longing for our lost home.

Because the world we came here to live in has come back to us. The world we buried in fear, that we forgot, that we have longed for for eons, is here.

All we have to do is claim it.

And remember:

  • We chose to be here.
  • We chose to stay.
  • We are born here.
  • We belong here.

We are home.

And it is wonderful.

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

 Note: This article is expanded from a speech I gave at The One Gathering, a heart chakra opening intensive, at Washington Hall in Seattle, WA, on June 2, 2013.

 

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What Do You Want from a Space Clearing?

April 16, 2013 By 4 Comments

Puget Sound and Olympic MountainsIn my space clearing practice I am sometimes reminded that people don’t always ‘get’ what it is all about. So let me clear that up for you (okay, small pun intended).

First: we all want and need the same thing: a way to get an edge in our lives, to create the best personal, professional, and creative lives possible.

Here’s the surprise: start with space clearing, with getting the spaces you live and work in healthy, so the ground beneath your feet is as supportive as possible.

You start with getting a baseline on your space, as discussed in an earlier article. Then you define your goals for that space. But let’s back up a bit and explain space clearing.

What Space Clearing Is

Space clearing is a practical, holistic, intuitive technique that clears, or re-invigorates, the vibrations of the spaces we live and work in, much like vacuuming and dusting keep the physical space clean, and de-cluttering keeps it (reasonably) neat.

It doesn’t matter what the space is: whether you live in a tiny apartment or busy estate, or your business space is a cubicle, a bustling retail shop, or corporate or medical office, clearing the space will revive it, helping create healthy, balanced environments.

Space clearing involves vibrational, or energetic, clearing. Our ancestors did it, so it’s nothing new, it’s just something our modern culture is once again remembering.

When You Know You Need Space Clearing

How can you tell a space needs clearing? If you feel comfortable, invited, and intrigued by your spaces, they are healthy and clear. If you are tired, unfocused, and notice clients and staff are lackluster, your spaces need to be vibrationally cleared. If you just think a space needs to be clear, pay attention, because it probably does (that’s most likely your intuition talking, not your imagination).

The thing we tend to forget is that nothing stays clear without assistance. That’s why we’re always cleaning house and organizing our desks. Vibrational clearing is actually more intense, because both people and spaces (and the objects in them) are alive and have feelings, and bits of these emotions and thoughts spin off and mingle in a space, and inevitably clash.

That’s when you know you need clearing. And no, it’s not your fault. It’s life.

We sometimes mistakenly assume we need a space clearing because we must have done something wrong. This could happen when a sudden disruption brings us up short and reminds us that, yes, you had a professional clearing some years ago, and then got busy. The answer here: no, you didn’t do anything wrong; yes, regular clearings help; and yes, sudden disruptions happen.

At other times, life events occur, and space clearing seems like a good fit. That is true. Whether it is a sad event like an illness, divorce, or death, or a happy one like an anniversary, birthday, or graduation, acknowledging the change that occurs in the space and clearing it helps keep everyone at their best, including the space. Well done, a space clearing can include a ritual that adds both depth and beauty to an event.

Sometimes people are offended at the suggestion of a space clearing. This isn’t because some people consider it woo-wooey (although some do), but because they think clearing space implies that something is wrong with it, and, by extension, them.

It does not mean that. It simply acknowledges reality: that everything needs refreshing. It also can be a beautiful and uplifting ceremony all by itself, and is done to acknowledge and celebrate change.

Yes, space clearing can be done just to have fun with your spaces.

Hiring a Professional, and Determining Your Needs and Wants

Of course, you can clear your spaces yourself, and I recommend that you develop a regular practice of doing so. It will help you develop rituals that connect you with your spaces and the rhythms of life, especially if you do it monthly or seasonally. It will also help you stay attuned to what your spaces need to be their best, which helps you be your best (honest).

There are also many reasons why you’d want a professional to clear your space. These are times when you need a neutral, objective outsider. They include:

  • Real estate issues: buy/sell, remodel, new construction
  • Business issues: new or ongoing vibrational maintenance to keep spaces and staff vibrant and productive
  • Life issues: acknowledging life’s milestones, or support on your journey
  • Sudden or ongoing disruption: trauma, unexplained disturbances, ‘ghosts”
  • Training to do your own in-depth clearing

Now, if you are considering my Space Cooperating space clearing method, you and your space will be sharing mutual needs and wants:

  • You will be asking what space needs and wants.
  • You will be sharing what you need and want.

So, the first thing you do is establish your baseline for clearing, as detailed earlier. You employed all your senses to discover how your space appears to you: sight, sound, taste, touch, hearing, and intuition. That gave you some clues, some insights into things you might want to deal with.

Now, knowing that you can approach a clearing without feeling the weight of some karmic guilt (or benign neglect) as outlined above, you can consider your goals for a clearing.

Begin with a general intent:

What would you like to accomplish with the clearing? Peace of mind? Relaxation? Creative spark? An inviting business space? A celebration?

Then list 3-4 specific things you need and want from a space:

How could the space cooperate with you? Yes, what specific things would you like the space to help you with? Sometimes these are difficult, as you must sell a home. For example, I’ve had clients say goodbye and get a real firm idea of the kind of family life the space would want, information that helped their realtors sell faster.

Ask the space what it needs and wants:

Yes, this is a big reason why I’m out there doing Space Cooperating. Stunning things happen when people ask their spaces what they need and want. They learn the space’s personality quirks and interests, they hear its thoughts on their work, and they get unusual support for their creativity. I had one small houseboat volunteer its walls, ceiling, and floors as a canvas for its new owner’s art. The closeness that developed between them still makes me smile.

Very often asking a space what it thinks helps spur your own development, from expanding your personal and professional life to a soaring creative one. Spaces are our intimate partners, and the relationship and team-building that comes from sharing insights and desires creates a closeness that nurtures both sides.

It matters. You matter. Your spaces matter. Tell them what you need and want. Ask them what they need and want. Great things happen.

Spaces get clear. And so do you.

 © 2013 Robyn M Fritz

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Finding a Baseline: How to Know When Your Spaces Need Clearing

March 18, 2013 By Leave a Comment

elements-of-a-clear-spaceHow do you know when the spaces you live and work in need to be cleaned up? As in vibrationally clear, which comes from space clearing?

Yes, we all vacuum and dust and do the dishes (well, not every day at our house, but you get the idea). We may also clear away the clutter, however you define it (I don’t mind the magazines stacked beside the chair, even when Grace the Cat knocks them over, but I’ve noticed visitors are sometimes, well, judgmental).

Having our spaces vibrationally clean, or clear, is another matter. That means that the unseen essence of a space, like that of all beings human and otherwise, needs to be as ‘free-flowing’ as possible. If it’s not, it’s ‘stuck,’ and that causes problems.

You can tell a space has a problem because of how you feel in it. If you feel uncomfortable, tired, or grumpy at home (or work) or uninspired and lackluster at work (or home), your space is stuck. That simple. It needs space clearing, or what we call in my practice Space CooperatingSM.

Everything Is Alive and Can Get Stuck (Or Not)

Space CooperatingSM begins with a mindset that everything is alive, no matter what it is: a home, a business, our cars, trees, mountains, weather systems. That means that everything has a soul, responsibility, free choice, and an attitude.

Everything.

That also means that everything is affected by other beings. By events. And emotions. So as we humans go about our packed days, we carry our thoughts and feelings with us, whatever they are, and leave bits of them behind us in the places we visit. Our bits mingle with everyone else’s and they either meld into some awesome whole or, more typically, clash a bit (or a lot).

Now here’s the part that most people forget: everything we see, and don’t see, is also alive, right? That’s the mindset element. So the spaces we visit? They’re alive, they have feelings and emotions, too. Everyone who visits them mingles in their energy, or vibration, it all gets mixed up, and we’re right back at getting past ‘stuck’ to ‘awesome.’

Getting ‘stuck’ isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it’s part of life. It’s how we deal with it that matters. Paying attention is key.

We can spend a lot of time thinking about how we feel and working on that with whatever techniques work for us (psychotherapy, energy healing, play, CAKE), but if we don’t pay attention to the spaces we live and work in we’re trying to get better in murky water. And we’d all rather have the cleanest water possible, right?

Finding a Baseline

Bottom line here, we need to pay attention to our spaces. What does it take to create healthy spaces and to keep them healthy?

First and foremost, you need a baseline, so consider your spaces. You get that by checking them out. Literally and figuratively. With all your senses.

You’ll repeat each of the exercises below in each space (room, area). Start by closing your eyes and concentrating on the task before you. Then proceed to the exercise.

First, physically put yourself in the space. Go sit in your living room or your office.

Sight: How does it look to you? Is it bright, dark, colorful, bland, messy, dingy?

Smell: How does the place smell—moldy, fresh, stale, empty?

Touch: What happens when you touch the space: a wall, desk, any physical part of it? Is it sticky, wet, rough?

Taste: Sure, you’re not actually going to taste a space. But imagine that you could. Would it be bland, bitter, sweet, fresh, sour, chemical-laden?

Hear: What do you hear in the space? Street traffic? Wind? Creaking floors? Silence?

Intuition: Of course you knew it was coming. How does the space feel to you? To begin, you might want to close your eyes so you can be as ‘other-sensory’ deprived as you can. Just be present with the space. Note how your body reacts. Note where the reaction is coming from (direction, room).

Is the feeling dense, heavy, light, too airy to breathe in, colorful, bland, dark?

The practicalities: Spaces are colored by what happens in them, just like our bodies are affected by our experiences. Knowing a place’s history can help, as long as it’s one element in your understanding of it and not the entire story.

What do you know about the spaces—have they experienced high turnover, unhappy or stressed humans, cold or heat?

Now: repeat this entire exercise for every area or room in your space, including outdoor spaces.

What It Means: Your Baseline

What do you think, and feel, about your spaces? Combine everything you know to determine areas that feel perfect and others that might need some focused attention. The parts that need attention need space clearing. Be grateful for the others, and spend some time figuring out why they are that way (and keep them clear with regular space clearing as well).

You now have your baseline. Notice that it combined some objective, eyes wide open analysis of your spaces with how you experienced it with all your senses, including your intuition.

Yes, your intuition. You are intuitive: you had insight into the space that didn’t come from what you objectively experienced.

You’ve started to tap your intuition to experience your space.

What do you think about that? What does it mean to you?

We’re just about ready to take the big step that distinguishes Space Cooperating space clearing from other space clearing practicies: finding out what the space has to say about itself and the people it encounters.

Yes, that’s right. The space itself.

But first, what do you want from the space? Sitting down to outline what you need and want in a space is key to fixing any imbalances and to negotiating change with the space. That’s our next topic.

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

 

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Video on Space Cooperating: Space Clearing That Talks with Spaces

February 25, 2013 By Leave a Comment

Puget Sound and Olympic MountainsSpace Cooperating is a space clearing modality that I invented in Seattle at my company, Alchemy West. Why? Because it was needed.

Space Cooperating helps connect people and their spaces by meshing the needs and wants of both people and their spaces.

That’s right. I intuitively talk with homes, businesses, and land to find out their needs and wants as I explain human needs and wants. Then I bring them together to negotiate solutions. Then Fallon and I clear the spaces with alchemical energy (it helps the people, too).

What happens? Property sells, remodels are easier, people solve business problems, people and their spaces work wonders together. Awesome.

It’s all about mindset. If you really believed you were equal to all life, instead of dominating it, you would ask what it needed and wanted. Wouldn’t you? Check out our video.

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© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

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Mindset: Why Changing Paradigms Changes the World

February 20, 2013 By Leave a Comment
Patterns by Mary Van De Ven

Patterns by Mary Van De Ven

I will listen to anyone who has something to say to me—as long as they have a healthy interest in me and in building community. That’s actually a big crowd, because most of us are genuinely interested in building a better world, and actively seeking ways to do it.

But most of us forget that it isn’t just humans who are interested in us, so we miss a lot. We miss opportunities to connect and to grow, which makes us, and the world, a bit less than it could be.

I have been talking with nonhumans since I was a kid, from my banty chicken companions to trees, buildings, and the land around me. I didn’t always understand this; I only understood that I saw things differently than other people, that a strictly human perspective didn’t include the world I knew that was full of other beings who were eager to chime in—and routinely ignored.

To be clear, I was ignored, too. What saved me was that I was a girl in a small Oregon town that didn’t think girls were relevant, a dismissal that allowed my parents to humor me within a culture that had no frame of reference for someone like me. I survived because I was very bright, worked hard, and learned to block what everybody else was blocking.

I don’t do that anymore, and neither should you. We all need to quit blocking what the rest of the world needs to share with us. Because we need to be our best selves, and that’s the only way we can.

That means bridging paradigms, moving from a human worldview to an earth worldview. Simply put, it means changing mindset.

We’re used to operating from a human mindset—a paradigm that implies that humans are in control and the world revolves around us. It operates through cultural, religious, and governmental constraints. It’s not fun—and it’s not working.

The earth mindset is true, accurate, and works. It is the world as it really exists, acknowledging that everything is alive, has a soul, responsibility, free choice, a point of view—and is equal to us.

Everything—from our animals to our homes and businesses and the land around us.

Okay, so you’re thinking that you have enough to do without wondering what your car or house or business think.

Truth is, this worldview makes things easier, and that makes you better. To create healthy, vibrant, prosperous lives, we need rock solid ground beneath us. That means space clearing that really works: the modality we teach that we call Space Cooperating.That means intuitive communication that respects differences—so that we can all grow from them, communication that we call Mindset Alchemy.

Imagine the environment we can create by finding out what the land and water think, what our buildings need and want, what they can contribute to what we need and want. (Check out some of our intuitive stories at our website.)

Imagine the possibilities for growth, creativity, and just plain fun that occur when we broaden our perspective and respect the world and everything in it as an equal.

Humans only know a small part of the world—usually just what we think up. It limits us. Want to know the truth about global warming? Ask the hurricanes. Want to know how your home would like to nourish you, or what your business might suggest for attracting new clients? Want to know how to find a new home, or direct a remodel? Want insight you can’t get anywhere else—something that could change your life?

Ask the nonhuman beings in your life. But first, change your mindset. Instead of being a boss with only some of the information, you’ll be a partner with access to much more.

How?

I teach this mindset in classes and in one-on-one sessions. It works. Your life will change. I’d say ‘trust me,’ but don’t. Trust yourself, and the beings who are waiting to share with you.

Come find out how.

©2013 Robyn M Fritz

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Why Space Cooperating Is Better Than Traditional Space Clearing

February 19, 2013 By Leave a Comment

lavenderSpace clearing is a great way to keep the energies or vibrations of a space healthy and balanced. It works, but the modality I created at Alchemy West, which I call Space Cooperating,SM works better. It’s part of the Seattle intuitive consultation practice for people, homes, and businesses that I run with my partner, Fallon, the Citrine Lemurian Quartz.

What Space Clearing Is

Space clearing is a holistic method of clearing the energies or vibrations of a space. Just as you need to dust or vacuum a space to keep it sparkling, you need space clearing to make a space feel good.

It’s easier to experience this concept than to intellectualize it. If you feel uncomfortable, tired, restless, vague, or uninspired at home or work, you need to clear those spaces. Even if you feel great, you need to keep a space clear so that it continues to feel great (just like house cleaning)—the more regularly you do it, the easier it is (again, just like, well, you get it).

The problem is, traditional space clearing, the type practiced by our ancestors and adapted for our times, forces a space to change to suit us. It in effect throws a blanket on top of the space. You may feel better for a bit, but it’s pretty hard to live, let alone breathe, under a blanket 24/7.

Why Space CooperatingSM Works Better

Space CooperatingSM clears space by inviting the space to tell us what it needs and wants, and then negotiating change. Because it negotiates instead of forcing, the space doesn’t end up feeling dense and heavy, but vibrant and healthy. What’s more, when we actively cooperate with our spaces, we create partnerships with them, and the most amazing things happen!

The insights we glean from our partners help us be our best selves. This is especially true of our spaces, because they are, literally, the ground beneath our feet, the rock solid foundation we need to grow on. Their unique insights into our needs and wants can be both practical and inspiring. The sad thing is, they are often overlooked by those of us who don’t think to invite them to share with us.

In my Space CooperatingSM practice I’ve seen:

  • a house over a century old perk up and invite its new family to play with it
  • a houseboat invite its new owner to use its walls, ceiling, and floor as an art canvas
  • a huge estate admit that the property it lived on was not suitable for a young family
  • a house that didn’t want to let go of its people understand they couldn’t stay, and call new people to it

Sure, this all might have happened with space clearing, but not as easily or as happily. Because Space CooperatingSM creates partnerships. And life is about connecting.

In future articles I’ll be discussing mindset, rituals, tools, practitioners, everything you need to know about clearing space with this new method.

But for now, what questions do you have about Space CooperatingSM?

© 2013 Robyn M Fritz

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Out and About: Robyn and Fallon

January 5, 2013 By Leave a Comment

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My Dog Is Dying: The Real Life Crappy Choice Diary, Entry 16

April 17, 2012 By Leave a Comment

my dying dogHow do we walk that last mystery of life with our beloved animal companions? How does the human-animal bond end?

I write this as our mystery is over: I lost my dying dog, my beloved Murphy, on March 8, 2012. I continue with our diary because her life ran out before our story did, and our story matters. We lived it passionately and clearly: it is helping others deal with their own impending mysteries.

Murphy had splenic cancer: at least we’re pretty sure she did. On Dec. 26, 2011, I took her to the vet for a slight cough: that led to a diagnosis of bronchitis and anemia and infection, and finally to splenic cancer. A radiologist confirmed it on ultrasound, and on January 12, 2012, a surgical specialist in Seattle told me she was pretty certain it was cancer.

Splenic cancer. You don’t beat this cancer. Ever. You can only delay it. The specialist figured it had only been there a month (about the time I noticed a subtle difference in what I thought was progressing arthritis). It is unusual to find it before a crisis develops, but the end result is the same.

If it was cancer, Murphy would live six months with surgery and chemo, three months without.

If it wasn’t cancer (and three vets were now sure it was), it was still growing and would kill her if it wasn’t removed. The surgery itself might kill her.

How do you make these choices?

What in hell do you do?

Get the Facts

Some people say they don’t want to know if their beloved animal is dying.

I say my definition of a multi-species family is you’re lucky if you get to know what you’re dealing with. In Murphy’s case, the vets were pretty sure it was cancer, an aggressive cancer you never beat.

Our best advice here: sit down, write a list of questions, and fill in the blanks. Take it all to a trusted vet and go over it in detail.

I looked at the X-ray, read the report, participated in the actual ultrasound, had Murphy examined by a surgical specialist who had a lot of experience with it.

We looked hard at Murphy: at 13-1/2 she was old and arthritic, although mostly comfortable on Rimadyl. She had bronchitis, heart arrhythmia, and a mild heart murmur.

Surgery was possible but risky. She’d need several days in intensive care and about 10 days recovering before she could walk comfortably. We had stairs to negotiate and I am handicapped: I would simply not be able to provide her the level of care she’d need, so we’d have to hire help.

All possible, but was it necessary? Should we do it? Why or why not?

Murphy and I had a years-old deal: we’d come together in this lifetime, in a safe place, to heal. We’d done that. I’d promised her I wouldn’t ask her to do any more. This seemed like too much: for her and for us. But I’d go with her decision.

It wasn’t that easy, of course, because her decision was this: she believed her body was gradually breaking down, that she was dying anyway, and she believed she’d have more time if we did not operate.

What did the vets think?

Well, that’s part of the blessing, and the curse, isn’t it?

Get the Vet

We parted ways with our long-time vet because she insisted we do things her way.

“You tell the vet you want as much time with her as possible,” she said. Operate and remove it and do chemo.

What I heard: “Torture your dog to keep her with you a few months longer.”

What was really meant: “We force them to stay for our sake, disregarding the quality of their lives, and I the vet am the boss and you do what I say.”

So, bottom line: make sure you and your vet are on the same page. We hadn’t seen the vet we ended up with in years. He was there for us: calm, precise, balanced. He didn’t tell me what to do. He told me what it would look like, and left the decision to us: to me and Murphy. Where it belonged.

What do you do? Make sure you have a vet whose mindset matches yours. Stay informed. Run from anyone who insists that you should do what they want. It’s not their family: it’s yours.

Paternalism should die before we do.

Grace the Cat guards her sister's dreams

Get Support

Tell your friends and family what’s going on. You will end up making new friends and losing old ones. Both are fine. Death is part of living: if anyone in your circle can’t handle it, they can’t handle life. You don’t need them.

Ask for help. I knew there might be problems if Murphy went into crisis in the middle of the night and we needed help to get to the ER. Asking someone to be available to drive you is a big deal: emotionally and physically. Think about who in your circle could possibly help. Ask, but be clear that it’s strictly up to them, and make no judgments on who agrees, who ignores you, and who says no. And why. It’s a growth process all around.

Backup helps. I wouldn’t leave Murphy for more than a few hours those last 2-1/2 months: with a splenic tumor, a crisis could occur in an hour (ultimately, it did). Some people called and wanted to stay with the kids for a few hours, to give me a break. Excellent.

Remember: people are grieving with you, in their own way. Let them help. Let them bow out. Keep the lines open.

I am grateful for everyone who did or did not show up for us. I found a new level of community in the process.

How will you find yours?

Chart Your Course

I knew what we were facing. I focused on comfort and care. We used acupuncture and herbs (thank you, Darla Rewers, DVM, for greeting Murphy so cheerfully, picking up where we’d dropped off a few years before, and helping us with acupuncture, holistic remedies, and loving advice) and the good food and medications we were already using.

I looked at dying naturally and at euthanasia, and what the cancer would actually do to her.

I looked at hospice alternatives for animals and created my own: after all, I was not a stranger to death.

I was grateful that I’d spent so much time over the years learning about veterinary medicine and thinking about creating families with animals: I knew what I wanted my family life to look like, and I knew what my animals wanted it to be like.

I discussed this all with Murphy. And the rest of the family: Alki, my Cavalier boy, and Grace the Cat.

And then we lived our lives together: we walked the mystery, step by step.

We loved.

So here’s what you do: if you’re lucky enough to know the end is coming, find out as much as you can about what it will look like, and figure out how you can live through it so the only regret you have at the end is that you ran out of time. You’re the only one who knows what that will look like to you.

If you don’t know it’s happening, here’s what you do: you stop right now and make sure each day is one you’re grateful for. Live a full life with your animal family. There is no other way.

Hire an Intuitive

I am an intuitive: people pay me and my crystal partner, Fallon, to talk to things with them.

I was smart enough to hire someone else to talk with us.

That means I had someone talk with Murphy and with me regularly throughout the process. I could sit back and be the client: I could hear what Murphy thought and felt, and she could hear me, and a compassionate, objective, loving intuitive could be the bridge between us.

That intuitive is Debrae FireHawk. In the process she relived the loss of her own dog, which helped her as well.

With that support Murphy and I said goodbye to each other. We grieved losing each other. We cried. We accepted. At some point, she became excited about the new life she was moving towards, a bittersweet moment for me.

And then she died.

© 2012 Robyn M Fritz

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My Dog Is Dying: The Real Life Crappy Choice Diary, Entry 15

April 4, 2012 By 1 Comment

my dying dogHow civilized are we, really?

As things stand in our society, grief is a reality largely reserved for humans. By humans.

My grief is not. Neither is my family’s.

I was at an expo last weekend in Portland, a place where people come together to celebrate and explore metaphysics, from crystals to healing arts to intuitive consultations. I met people who don’t put the kinds of limits on mindset that a large part of our society does. People whose minds are open to the possibility that there is more out there than human.

And that it is worthwhile.

I was there with my crystal partner, Fallon, doing intuitive consultations and teaching a workshop on space clearing, what I call Space CooperatingSM.

In my work I talk about how we bridge paradigms by acknowledging that the world isn’t all about humans, but about all life together. The mindset that really works is the mindset that acknowledges that humans and all life are equals: that everything on our planet is alive, has a soul, is conscious, and has responsibility and free choice.

All life. From humans to animals to trees and rocks and volcanoes and weather systems.

Something happened at the expo last weekend.

Someone who works professionally as an intuitive, as I do, looked over at me, met my eyes, and immediately came over to me. Her face changed in the moment our eyes met. Simple human curiosity changed to loving compassion.

She came up to me and said. “You’ve recently lost your soul mate. I’m sorry for you.”

I felt my grief well up. Yes, I had just lost my soul mate, my beloved dog, Murphy. A complete stranger, an intuitive, had seen the loss written on me and offered condolences. When told, it didn’t matter to her that it was my dog I’d lost: what she acknowledged was how profound the loss was to me. Her understanding and compassion were based on a love of all life.

Somehow we humans are growing as a species. When I lost my beloved dog, Maggie, so many years ago, my family ridiculed my grief. I had to get on a plane and go visit friends who loved and honored her.

This time, love and support have come from everywhere: from long-time friends to new ones, from clients to strangers, in phone calls and emails and cards and gifts and visits. Complete strangers who find my blog and who are living the human-animal bond with animals as family members. Some of them are people who are struggling with their own loss, and finding community in grief.

This time, people understand.

Somewhat.

Truth is, some of the response have bewildered me. People who are long-time friends who haven’t bothered to call. People who are new friends who have, whose simple acceptance has given my grieving heart, and my family’s, space to try to find a new rhythm.

There are people who don’t understand and don’t try. The people I was with the day that I took Murphy to the vet and watched as a radiologist carefully examined her and showed me, on the ultrasound, what was going to kill my beloved. The day I learned that the mass they’d seen on an x-ray was most likely splenic cancer. The day I learned our days were numbered.

That was the day I was going through the motions of being a supportive friend and businesswoman, listening to two people bemoan their difficulties and annoyances and wondering what I was doing there. The day I was thinking of my family’s future, and trying to think plain thoughts about how I’d find someone to drive me and my dog to the ER in the middle of the night if Murphy went into crisis and had to be euthanized, and I might not be able to drive us.

The day both women turned to me and shouted, “Don’t call me for a dog.”

Truth is, it never occurred to me to consider either of them as potential help. I was simply brainstorming out loud.

The vehement response is still with me. What were they so afraid of that they had to shout it at me? What was lacking in them that they couldn’t simply say, “I’m sorry for you”?

Yes, in many ways we’ve matured as a society. Today, a perfect stranger can see grief on a stranger’s face and understand that losing an animal soul mate is every bit as devastating as losing a human one.

It’s just not always as socially acceptable.

I already knew that, as it did not occur to me to ask either of these people to help me, but respected their cool business heads enough to see what logical ideas would come to them as I grappled with the sure knowledge, only hours old, that my last days with Murphy were upon me. Nevertheless, their cold hostility shocked me, and still does.

I am grateful that this story shocks others who hear it. That what resonates with others is that, as advanced as our society supposedly is, we still aren’t really there.

We still don’t see all life as equal to humans.

Or that grief is not reserved for humans.

My surviving dog, Alki, and Grace the Cat grieve. I grieve. Others grieve with us. And some absolutely do not.

I wonder what that means. The people who refused to help when help wasn’t requested: were they just not ‘animal people,’ or were they just afraid to acknowledge grief?

Maybe they thought death would rub off on them.

Maybe animals aren’t good enough. After all, I’m expected to care about their children and spouses, and I do. I care about all life. I care about their families. They just did not care about mine.

Some few others do care.

We are the ones who will make a difference in the world. We live compassion. We live love. We can see what life with a soul mate can be like, whatever body it is in.

And what death does to us.

Grief is universal. It should unite us. Civilize us. Beyond species.

Will it?

© 2012 Robyn M Fritz

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What It Means to Talk with All Life

January 13, 2011 By 2 Comments

We can all talk with all life, from our food to our cars, animals to plants, businesses to homes, volcanoes to weather systems. Everything you can imagine—and many things you can’t—can speak with us. In fact, they are all already speaking to each other. In fact, the only ones who are not participating in an active, open dialogue with all life are humans. We are, so to speak, behind the curve, and have been for centuries.

Oh, Great, Another Spacey New Ager

I am not an airy fairy woo-wooey person. I am a cynic and a skeptic. I sometimes wonder why I am one of the people who can talk with other beings most of us had no idea could, or wanted, to talk with us. And were scary besides (like earthquakes and hurricanes). I think it’s because I also believe in the equality of all life, and am interested and respectful enough to have an open conversation with whatever wants to speak with me. I think it’s time for this ability to be taken seriously and shared with other humans, so we can regain an ability we’ve repressed for eons.

I believe that intuition and the ability to intuitively communicate is a practical, relevant ability that kept our ancestors alive. Like the abilities to see, hear, taste, touch, and smell, their intuition kept them alive when large prey animals were sneaking up on them: they ‘knew’ when they were about to become lunch. Humans that didn’t have that ability, well, got eaten, and their lack of intuitive ability got wiped out of the gene pool with them.

I am, essentially, a translator. I tell the stories of the beings who speak with me. I help other people speak with them, whether the beings are our businesses and homes, our cars, gardens or animals. I also speak with wild/domestic land and weather systems. That means I speak with beings like volcanoes and hurricanes. We can do this, and, in fact, we do when we are angry because a hurricane is coming, frightened of an earthquake, and awestruck by a steam explosion at Mount St. Helens.

The key is to speak as equals, to hear and to share what we hear.

That’s what I do.

Why Are People Just Now Speaking to All Life?

People like me are pioneers, like it or not. We have our work cut out for us: helping people understand that everything out there is alive and has an attitude to share with us, and that we can share with them, is daunting. We can do this work because of the wonderful, brave people who became animal communicators 30 years ago. They went public about speaking with the beings we are most intimate with: our animal companions. It was strange, then, to talk with an animal, but thanks to these people it is increasingly accepted. And many people are doing it.

Animal communicators paved the way for people like me to talk with other beings and not get locked up for it. They helped open a space that humans had forgotten about. Now that some of us are hearing and talking with these other beings, we’re stepping up to tell their stories and to help other people talk with them.

Is it strange? Yes, but if enough of us keep at it, it will become commonplace. Which it should be.

Yes, people do think I’m crazy. I keep going, because I’m not.

When people read my stories, work with me, or come to an event to meet me and my crystal partner, Fallon, they are just like me: skeptical, cynical, analytical, and curious. Sometimes they are reverential, because they’ve had their own amazing experiences with other beings, especially crystals. And they leave believing that it’s all possible and real because of the calm, respectful, interested, and matter-of-fact way we go about our work at Alchemy West.

Every time someone makes their own connection through us, every time we hear about their experiences, I know that risking going public with who I am and what I do is worth it.

So, now, what do you think?

(c) 2011 Robyn M Fritz

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